justwhisper repliedThey gave me a sedative to help me relax. Someone had to come with me to drive me home because of the sedative. It was done in a small office on a table. The procedure only took a few minutes. They inserted a tube into me and basically sucked out the fetus. I really felt nothing during the procedure, kind of like getting a PAP. 23 years later...I still feel it. It is a guilt I have lived with my whole life. Hardly a week has gone by in my life I haven't thought about it and wondered who I killed. I don't know what the alternative would have been at the time. My advice to people who don't want kids...don't have sex. Or use 2 methods of BC, including a condom. I wouldn't wish it on anyone. I am sorry for you for having to make this decision. Choose wisely, you can't take it back.

SuMmEr repliedI had one when I was 20. They put me in what is like an operating room and put you to sleep so you won't feel anything... They will show you what they use if you ask, it's like this little tube thing that will suck the EMBRYO out... I am pro choice, I did it at 8 weeks, it wasn't even a fetus yet so don't let all these people make you feel like crap. Afterwords I woke up in a ROOM in a bed with lots of blankets.. There's a pressure on your bladder that makes you feel like you have to pee but you don't. There will be some pain and bleeding but nothing too bad, they usually give you pain meds to manage it. Honestly, I would never do it again. I didn't know all my options and my mom was pressuring me because she was paying for my college and I lived with her. Do what's best for you. There's not a day that goes by that I don't think about what could have been, you have to be emotional ready...

jenzito repliedeveryday you will think about it and what if..... but look into adoption, if anything

Tilly repliedHow an abortion is carried out depends on how many weeks you are into the pregnancy.
Upto 12 weeks you can choose to have a surgical procedure (an operation) to remove the baby, after 12 weeks you will have to deliver it having taken medication to abort the baby.

I agree with all the other comments, but it is ultimately your choice and your the only one that has to live with it. Consider ALL of your options carefully and your reasons for making a decision, but the decision is yours and not anyone elses, take advice and speak to a counsellor.

brandlet repliedDon't do it. Think of the poor baby. How would you like your mother to do it to you?

perservicia repliedI felt like it was a mistake. I have a 2 yr old I wouldn't have done it if I would have known the affect it has not only on you but your life around you.

I don't remember what they did in the room.But they do an ultra sound first to see how far along you are =( which makes you want to run and not do it. Then that have you give them blood so they can see the change in HCG Levels. Then last of what I remember is they put you to sleep.

rowena utopia repliedThe process is different depending upon how far along your are. My abortion was a Saline Abortion, the procedure was this: The abortionist injected a strong salt solution directly into the amniotic sac. The baby swallowed it and was thus poisoned. I delivered my dead baby about 23 hours later. Sometimes babies aborted using this method are born alive.
Emotionally, I was fine, but I expected what was coming. Most women become very depressed after the abortion.

Peace2009 repliedWhy would any body want to be a Mother Of a Dead Baby, because thats basically what you are... you're still a mother, but the baby is just lifeless...
Think about it...

dana_mwah repliedFirst of all, I have never had an abortion, nor would i ever have one.
However, my bestfriend had one later this year and it was a hell of a roller-coaster ride for her, her bf, and for her friends.

I guess she knew she didnt want the baby the moment she found out she's pregnant. I felt torn because I knew i had to be supportive - and yet I wanted to let her know what she was getting herself into. She turned to me when it came to what options were available. I sort of studied the abortion process, the different options, where to go etc.

So I told her about the abortion pills, the vaccum, the injection...and even the old natural way using ascorbic acid (vitamin c), parsley and ginger.

She ended up taking the vaccum which she said hurt like hell!

I was so mad at her for not properly thinking things through....sorting out her feelings, what she REALLY wanted to do if it weren't for her circumstances (she's still in uni on a scholarship), other options she could have that didnt involve killing it....but she frieked out and had the abortion within the first two weeks of finding out!

Anyways, all i wanna say is dont be in a hurry to make a decision. You have to think things through from different angles.....
- ur current situation and circumstances
- other options that does not include abortion
- what you really want to do
- how you think you would feel whether u go ahead with it or not
- the consequences of having it or not having it
- emotional scarring etc....
- regrets

In the end the decision is yours. i would say not to do it because having a baby is a blessing and it's the greatest gift. But it's up to you to do what you feel is right. just make sure ur around people who understand and support you...someonoe for you to talk to and sort yourself out.

Just make sure ur 100% sure of the choice u make before going ahed with it.

goodluck!!!

ms.dee repliedThey take you to a room(just like in a regular obgyn office), they stick a probe in you and and kind of move it around to get everything out. Then they give you a pad and you get up and you are on your way with 2 ibuprofin. It was over in like 15 minutes. I had no problems and really don't think about it much because I knew I did not want to have the baby. Some people have a really tough time emotionally because they were either forced to have the abortion, really did not want to go through with it or regret doing it. Since I "KNEW" I did not want to have the child, i think I was fine emotionally. I don't regret it and neither should you if you choose to do it.

melissa repliedsorry, but this is not a question for here....an abortion is a private and personal choice, each one is different and effects each person totally different

tidgie10211982 repliedhttp://www.silentscream.org/

Watch the video on that site. Then judge for yourself what your emotions would be after having this done to your child.

Roshizzle repliedi had to take two pills and basically flush it out of my body. it was like a heavy period. you feel under the weather for a while. then you are given a date to take a pregnancy test and see if it worked. then everythings back to normal

reality feedback repliedI'm not at all judging you as a person, but I will express that you are completely committing an act of sin to terminate a LIFE that only GOD can formin the womb of a woman... Being the gift that no one can duplicate at all... The fruit of the womb is only given by GOD ... Do not terminate your pregnancy, children are a blessing and remember that you will regret it no matter what!!! GOD will provide sweetie, the baby deserves to live his or her purpose in LIFE too :)
GOD bless!

Learly bear repliedgetting an abortion is something you have to decide for yourself to do...it should not be pressured or forced by anyone. you do have other options...having the baby getting help from medicaid and wic...giving up for adoption and its basically not too hard to get help from agencies...you end up having the baby for free however raising the child correctly will be on you. so lets say you are just in no position or state of mind to have a child...and you have thought it through and realize that an abortion is the only option for you...in that case you have 2 options depending on far along you are. you can take the pill abortion (medical abortion) if you are less than 8 weeks or surgical abortion if you are farther along...you do have to be in your first 3 months though to get an abortion after that its sometimes really expensive or illegal...if you do the pill one its basically going to require you to pee in a cup..and get a vaginal exam they also do a sonogram sometimes....this could be emotional if you are still unsure or uneasy...but if you are in no way interested in having a child this should just be a procedure to you that you want done asap. then you are given a pill to swallow...and given 3 pills to insert into your vagina...these pills make you contract and it feels like cramping from a period...you might throw up from pain,....your body is getting rid of the tissue,...you might see a quarter size tissue in the toilet and that means you aborted....you need to go back in a week or 2 to check if you got rid of everything....the other option is less painful but more invasive...the surgical...you do the first steps of vaginal exam..but you are slightly put under anestesia and they put a vacuum like tube to suck everything out of your uterus...this is a sure fire way of getting everything out. it hurts less but as i said its obviously more uncomfortable....if you don't want a child you won't care about getting rid of some tissue...if you are unsure you might be uneasy and cry...but thats whyi said only do it if you really don't want a child.

Pregnant With Twins! 1st Time! repliedThey just suck out the baby..the poor baby comes out in SEPARATE parts..legs..arms..hands..head..

My friend did it..she regrets it every single day!

Alex repliedThere are 2 ways. One they suck it out of you like a vacuum. Two you take a pill and it's like miscarrying. I was upset for about a year and i still think about it all the time. At the same time i don't regret it. I was in a bad situation and it was a good choice for me. Good luck with whatever you decide.

AliveNside repliedIt was 13 years ago, so medically it may be different

At 5.5 weeks, I had a shot that numbed my lower body
I remember the procedure-- it didn't hurt exactly, but it was feeling of getting emptied

My recovery was a blur of four hours of sitting quietly

That night I had nightmares... not gross, but scary, ill defined images of pain and angst.

Late that night , coincidentally, a squirrel was trapped in my stove. I became convinced that it was a baby squirrel and that it was scared/lonely/ in pain. I called my Landlord 4 or 5 times between 3 and 6 am to get the squirrel out.
That day and the next 2 days I had a kind of physical/emotional "breakdown"/ But, I had already scheduled myself out of work, and had not commitment.

Mentally, I was always OK. I have never once felt guilty or sad. Not once. But the couple days after, my BODY felt like something was missing, and I physically felt disconnected, and uncaring for those few days. It was an awful feeling, and it was strong enough for me to remember it all these years later, but it went away and I was perfectly fine in less than 5 days.

I have never once regretted my decision and would like to share that my life would have been a living hell with a kid, I made the right decision// BUT I also never ever got pregnant again and was extremely careful whenever I had sex.

edit)) Please ignore the teenage virgins on here who think they have all the answers. I don't see why they even THINK their opinion counts with something they have zero experience in .... unwanted babies live horrible, awful lives and any non-white baby with any kind of flaw has a very low chance of getting adopted. Teenage virgins have no idea how the real world works and should stick to "omg, does he like me???" questions.

♥♥♥ repliedI got reported when I answered a question like this, so all I'm going to say is abortion can kill you also. Try google. It will explain the whole process. The process is gross and sad. You most likely will regret it later in life.

x.Sophie.x repliedAbortion means stopping a beating heart.
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latoya repliedMAN I THINK THIS IS ONE OF THE BEST QUESTIONS TO ASK. THE PROCEDURE IS REAL SIMPLE BUT DEPENDING ON WHERE YOU GO YOU MIGHT BE THERE ALL DAY. WHEN YOU FIRST COME THEY TAKE BLOOD YOUR TEMP AND CHECK YOUR WEIGHT. THEY LET YOU SPEAK TO SOMEONE TO MAKE SURE THIS IS WHAT U WANNA DO. THEY GIVE YOU A SONO TO SEE EXACTLY HOW BIG THE BABY IS. THEN ITS THAT TIME. YOUR PUT TO SLEEP AND WAKE UP IM RECOVERY. MAN WHEN I WENT I WAS SCARED AND FELT LONELY BUT I KNEW IF IT WAS BEST FOR ME AND MY CHILD TO GO THROUGH WITH IT. BUT I MADE A PROMISE TO MYSELF NOT TO GO THROUGH THAT AGAIN.