Spanika repliedYou obviously have had everything given to you in your life. I wouldnt be complaining if I still had money left over after paying bills. He is obviously a hard worker and wants to take time for life. Smell the roses. Your lucky! Why don't you work the other 20 hours and share the load? It'll give you time to do something you love, be creative. He can look after the kids while your there.

Double MM repliedYou sound like a spoiled *****. My heart bleeds for you.

Here's a concept. Go out and get a job yourself! Instead of mooching off of your husband. But then, I doubt you'd want to get your hands dirty....

EDIT: To morris.frankmorris - People don't get child support if they file for divorce?? WTF?? Which rock do you live under??

Also, where can I find a part time job paying $50,000 a year?

leslie b repliedWell, my first question to is: Are you contributing at all to the household income? Perhaps your husband was very unhappy and was overworked making 100k and he needed a break. I know that you have children, but perhaps you should consider getting a part-time job while they are in school to contribute. That way, you will have more of a say in the family income.

Also, have a talk with your husband about WHY he scaled back on his job. Chances are he did not do it to hurt you, so don't assume the worst- ask questions. If he sees that you're hurt by it, maybe both of you can make a deal- if you get a part time job to show that you're going to make an effort, he could work more to show that he is willing to make more of an effort. Communication is key :)

nancybuck8 repliedYes, you sound spoiled, if you don't like it, get a job yourself. Between my hubby and I we make about 57, 000.......we have a 9 year old and a dog. We budget. Maybe you should do the same.

morris.frankmorris repliedI don't mean to be in bad taste. but 4 children are a lot to have to deal with.

btw you wont get child support if you divorce him, since it would be your choice to have the divorce.

thezaylady repliedI have a feeling that this is only half the story.

bronzebabekentucky repliedyou need to grow up- seriously!!!
$50,000 at a part time job is good money
cut back on "luxuries"

Tally repliedYour husband was "CUT BACK"? Meaning he didn't have a choice correct. So how is it his fault?

riddlewrapednanenigma repliedWhat changed? I think you did the right thing by marrying someone you thought was great. Have you been working out and giving him what he wants?

Walt repliedI guess he wasn't happy and wanted to make a change to try to be happier. It kind of sounds like you married him for his money. Why are you posting this question on Y!A? Shouldn't you be communicating with your husband? Maybe you need to work on your relationship and stop ragging him so much about money and then he won't spend so much time in the garage working on his car.

Gold Digger repliedu can devorce him an get child support... the courts will order him to pay an hell have to go back to work to make the payments... or go to jail... maybe hell even have to take a 2nd job to make the payments...

Anjel repliedI actually understand what you are saying...my husband has worked for this company for over 2 years and our income has increased beyond belief (I was injured at work and still can't work but before that I was the primary bread winner) and now out of the blue he's decided to find other employment. Not talking to me about it, not thinking about the consequences of his choices and not thinking that rent is due in a few days!
With just my disability we still will need about $1,000 more dollars a month just to pay bills!
Trust me, I understand your frustration and if you find the answer please let me know

Mary G repliedIf after your bills are paid you have a thousand dollars left at the end of the month, you are fine... what's the problem?

girl3blonde repliedwow. it sounds like your husband has a life, and i think that's terrific. there is so much more to life than money, and if your husband can enjoy his life a bit more and still have enough money to live on, then i think that's great. maybe you can consider finding some ways to share his passion, or to teach your children how to enjoy life through other ways than just financial rewards.

maybe your husband became sick of just being seen as the wallet, and nothing else... you sound very superficial and money-grubbing. that might not be the case, and you might have very real financial concerns, but at the moment, you just seem to be expecting him to work for you, and not to value his time or him as a person. and that's just a little sad really.

fleigen1 repliedWhat do you do for a living and how much money to you earn monthly?

eldots53 repliedHe cut back, or he was cut back in his hours? Do you have any clue as to what the economy is like out there? Do you have any clue as to how lucky you are you can pay all your bills?

Snowy repliedmaybe you should get a job? $1000 left over at the end of the month sounds good to me... most people I know have $0 left over and still some unpaid bills.

S0UL0NFIRE666 repliedI agree it shouldnt matter how much money he makes as long as the bills are paid on time, roof over your heads, and food on the table. Money shouldnt matter in marriage, its all about love, or did you forget.

theoriginalquestmaker repliedI hate to say this but what are you crying about? Many people would love to have a thousand dollars left after paying the bills. Hell, they'd love to have any money left. And that is with both people working.

daljack -a girl repliedMaybe he felt he was working and not being appreciated....he felt like a money-making machine.

If you're not already working maybe it's time you got a job and help out until he's ready to go back to full time.

The person you should ask is your husband.

make art not war repliedi wish my dad could find a job but no one will hire him:( my mom works 48 hours a week and after they ve finnished bills and groceries we have nada i have 3 siblings im going to get a job soon im not trting to show you up or anything just know you have alot than other people do and may be he just needs a break life isnt all about work